“Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you”. -Ephesians 4:32
Kindness is love in action. Kindness is how love acts to maximize a positive circumstance. Patience avoids a problem; kindness creates a blessing. One is preventive, the other proactive. Love makes you kind. And kindness makes you likeable.
When you’re kind, people want to be around you. They see you as being good to them and good for them. See what d Bible says about d importance of kindness: “Do not let kindness and truth leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good repute in the sight of God and man” (Proverbs 3:3-4). Kind people simply find favor wherever they go. Even at home with their spouses. But how do we define and live “kindness”? I will attempt to break kindness down into four basic core ingredients:
Initiative: Kindness thinks ahead, then takes the first step. No request required. The kind husband or wife will be the one who greets first, smiles first, serves first, and forgives first. They don’t require the other to get his or her act together before showing love. How many records of who has do u have about each other. Spend sometime to talk about them and completely resolve.
Gentleness: When u are operating from kindness, you’re careful how you treat your spouse, never being unnecessarily callous or harsh. You’re sensitive. Tender. Even if you need to say hard things, you’ll bend over backwards to make your rebuke or challenge as easy to hear as possible. You speak the truth in love.
Helpfulness: Being kind means you meet the needs of the moment. If it’s housework, you get busy. A listening ear? You give it. Kindness graces a wife with the ability to serve her husband without worrying about her rights. Kindness makes a husband curious to discover what his wife needs, then motivates him to be the one who steps up and ensures those needs are met-even if his are put on hold. Willingness: Kindness inspires you to be agreeable. Instead of being obstinate, reluctant, or stubborn, you cooperate, you stay flexible. Rather than complaining or making excuses, you look for creative ways to accommodate and adjust. A kind husband ends thousands of potential arguments by his willingness to listen first rather than demand his way. Jesus described the kindness of love in His parable of the Good Samaritan, found in the Bible-Luke, chapter 10.
A Jewish man is attacked by robbers and then left for dead on a remote road. Two religious leaders, respected among their people, walk by without choosing to stop. Too busy. Too important. Too fond of clean hands. But a common man of another race-the hated Samaritans, whose dislike for the Jews was both bitter and mutual-sees this stranger in need and is moved with compassion. Where years of racism had caused strife and division, one act of kindness brought two enemies together. Taking the initiative, this man demonstrated true kindness in every way. Gently. Helpfully. Willingly. If enemies can do it, how about u two-intimates? Wasn’t kindness one of the key things that drew you and your spouse together in the first place? When you married, weren’t you expecting to enjoy his or her kindness for the rest of your life?
The Bible describes a woman whose husband and children bless and praise her. Among her noble attributes are these: “She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue” (Proverbs 31:26). How about you? How would your husband or wife describe you on the kindness meter? How harsh are you? How gentle and helpful? Make kindness your daily mission. Love in its truest sense is not based on feelings. Rather, love determines to show thoughtful actions even when there seems to be no reward.
- SAY NOTHING NEGATIVE TO YOUR SPOUSE FOR ONE WEEK.
- DO AT LEAST ONE UNEXPECTED GESTURE AS AN ACT OF KINDNESS.
It’s a great day. Isn’t it? Enjoy