“Good understanding produces favor” (Proverbs 13:15).

“By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; and by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches” (Proverbs 24:3-4).

There is a depth of beauty and meaning inside your wife or husband that will amaze you as you discover more of it.

Enter the mystery with expectation and enthusiasm. Dont say you are tired please. Make him or her your chosen field of study, and you will fill your home with the kind of riches only love can provide.

Your union is a lifelong journey

that draws your heart ever closer to each other.

  1. Know his or her greatest hopes and dreams?
  2. Fully understand how they prefer to give and receive love?
  3. Know what your spouse’s greatest fears are and why they struggle with them?

Some of the problems you have in relating to your spouse are simply because you don’t understand them. Or perhaps u have forgotten. Would this be correct? They probably react very differently to certain situations than you do, and you

can’t figure out why. These differences-even the ones that are relatively insignificant can be the cause of many fights and

conflicts in your marriage. That’s because as the Bible says, we tend to “revile” those things we don’t understand (Jude 10). There are reasons for his or her tastes and preferences. Each nuance in your spouse’s character has a back story, Each element of who he is, how he thinks, and what he’s like is couched in a set of guiding principles, which often makes sense only to the person who holds them. But it’s worth the time it will take to study why they are the way they are.

If you miss the level of intimacy you once shared with your spouse, one of the best ways to unlock their heart again is by making a commitment to know them, Study them.


Ask question: The Bible says, “The ear of the wise seeks knowledge” (Proverbs 18:15). Love takes the initiative to begin conversations. In order to get your spouse to open up, they need to know that your desire for understanding them is real and genuine.

Listen: “A fool does not delight in understanding, but only in revealing his own mind” (Proverbs 18:2). The goal of understanding your mate is to hear them, not merely to tell them what you think. Even if your spouse is not very talkative, love calls you to draw out the “deep water” that dwells within them (Proverbs 20:5).

Ask God for discernment. “The Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding” (Proverbs 2:6).

Have a great day filled with desire to understand and may God be with you.


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