God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. -Romans 5:8 If someone were to ask you, “Why do you love your spouse? “what would you say? Most men would mention their wife’s beauty, her kindness, or her inner strength. They might talk about her cooking, her knack for decorating, or what a good mother she is.
Women would probably say something about their husband’s good looks or his personality. They would say they love him because he’s always there for them. He’s generous. He’s helpful. But what if over the course of years, your wife or husband stopped being everyone of these things. Would you still love them? Based on your answers above, the only logical response would be “no.” If your reasons for loving your Spouse all have something to do with his or her qualities-and then those same qualities suddenly or gradually disappear and dome will with time-your basis for
love is over. Could this be why you behave the way you do? The only way love can last a lifetime is if it’s unconditional. That’s the way the designer himself is and designed it to be.
Agape love is unselfish, unconditional, and unstoppable. It is based upon choice and commitment, not feelings. So unless this kind of love forms the foundation of your marriage or dating, the wear and tear of time could destroy it. Agape love is “in sickness and health” love, “for richer or poorer” love, “for better or worse” love. It is for firm breast & sagged breast. It is for firm skin and wrinkled skin. It is for long luster black hair & for receding white and fallen out hair. Its for flat belly and big belly. It is the only kind of love that is lasting, unchanging, true love. That’s because this is God’s kind of love. He doesn’t love us because we are lovable, but because He is so loving. ” If He insisted that we prove ourselves worthy of His love, we would fail miserably. But His love is a choice He makes completely on His own. It’s something we receive from Him and then share with others. “We love, because He first loved us” (1 John 4:19).
If a man says to his wife, “I no longer love you,” he is actually saying “my love was based on feelings or circumstances rather not commitment. That’s the result of building a marriage on characteristics that will change over time. There must be a stronger foundation than mere friendship or sexual attraction. Unconditional love, agape love,
will not be swayed by time or circumstance. If your love began for the wrong reasons it can be restored and redeemed. In fact, when you rebuild your marriage with agape as its foundation, the friendship and romantic aspects of your love become more endearing than ever before. When your enjoyment of each other as both best friends and lovers is based on unwavering commitment, you will experience an intimacy that cannot be achieved any other way.
But you will struggle and ultimately fail to attain this kind of marriage unless you first allow God to begin establishing and growing His love within you. Love that “bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Corinthians 13:7) does not come from within. It can only come from God (1 John 47-16). This is God’s kind of love. And thankfully-by your choice-it can become your kind of love. And then, regardless of circumstances and feelings, you and your spouse can begin living confidently and securely under its shade. You will no longer say, “I love you because … “You will now say, “I love you.”
Recommit yourself to the wife of your youth, Refocus, Re – energize, Refire with all of your heart. God be with u this holiday.